2021.12.04 13:12 No_Cauliflower2543 I (21m) pushed my (20f) ex girlfriend out of a stationary car. Now she is trying to ruin my reputation. What should I do going forward?
There’s more to this than in the title so hear me out. I was with this girl for about 2 years and truly loved her. She came into my life at a very dark time. I was severely suicidally depressed. I was expressing this to everyone in my life including her. I was having mental breakdowns and panic attacks daily. I pretty much isolated myself for almost a year. I needed help and I knew it and sought it out myself. I spent a couple months with one therapist and tried a couple of anti depressants that didn’t work. I went on to find a psychologist that I related to very well. I continue to see her weekly to this day. She diagnosed me as bipolar II and got me on the correct medication. After a couple of months with her I managed to dig myself out a hole I thought I would never escape. I am now in a healthy stable place. She saved my life without a doubt. My ex was with me throughout this transformation. I acknowledge and am sorry for what I put her and my family through during this time period. I was unstable and expressed myself emotionally and chaotically at times despite my best efforts in keeping it under wraps. I tried to suffer in silence. I had no intention of hurting anyone, but it was hard on all of us. There was one incident I said somethings to my ex that were cynical and hurtful. This was early on and in my pain I had convinced myself she was why I was suffering. I immediately apologized and made amends as it was out of character. Our relationship continued and was fairly stable and healthy. We spent plenty of time together that was well worth it and had many beautiful moments. There was arguments, but we always worked through it. With every mistake I took every action in correcting it. Toward the end of our relationship we definitely had more. She became increasingly disrespectful and often made demeaning comments. It definitely had an effect on my self esteem. I took it upon myself to do more. I was constantly trying to come up with things I could do to be a better boyfriend and make up for the time in which I was limited. My ex started expressing how depressed she was and that she was suicidal. I did my best to support her as she supported me. In my time with her she sought out help but never stayed the course. She started drinking a bunch. The night we broke up for good I had picked her up from her house. She was drunk. We were driving back to my house and I was expressing my disappointment with a friend in our friend group who I felt I’ve done a lot for and that it hasn’t been reciprocated. This triggered something. I don’t remember exactly how but the conversation got very heated. She began verbally assaulting me calling me literally every name out of the book. I basically said I’m not doing this and I’m driving you home. I turned around and she was threatening to jump out of the car. Then continued to escalate coming up with every way to antagonize, demean, and distort my character. She put all the blame on me. I said that if I’m the issue that we shouldn’t extend it any further and break it off. We got to her house and she was screaming. Saying she was going to kill her self. It was chaos. one second she’d be apologizing for all the horrible things she said to me the next she would be pushing it further. I was just sitting there like what in the fuck. I repeated to her a couple dozen times get out of my car. I just said it over and over. She would not. Finally she said “you probably did punch (my previous ex) in the face”. At that point she pushed me to my edge. I wasn’t going to allow her to undermine who I am and my character any longer. I told her to get out my car again. She refused. I opened the passenger door from the driver seat and pushed on the side of her leg to escort her to the door. She then let her legs go and drunkenly fell into the grass. She got up, I closed the door and drove off. In hindsight I realize that was mistake that I should have got out the car. I thought she was going to step out. I apologized profusely despite what she said to me. After that I received hate mail from her for weeks claiming that I was a violent narcissistic sociopath. I never responded to these messages. Eventually I got a “calm” message from her and she still made me out to be the bad guy without empathy. Yet I was still trying to be supportive because I could empathize with what she was going through (she was diagnosed bipolar post breakup). That conversation went nowhere then a week later I got hit with another “hey”. She wanted to talk in person. I agreed as long as it remained peaceful. We talked expressed ourselves and reached a mutual understanding. I informed her that I’d be moving across the country in a week. She kept saying she was depressed about it all. We hugged for about 30 min straight and she left. She then blew up my phone stating how much she still loves me. I told her I love her too and that I want her to be happy more than anything. But that Im certain of my decision to move and break off the relationship. That it’s what would be healthiest for both of us. I also said I’m still a text away if she needs support. Fast forward 2 months I’m living in new city focusing on school. I check Instagram one day and see that my best friend from my hometown is now with her. I put two and two together, look back on the timeline and realize they were hanging out together alone consistently while we were still together. Yep she was probably cheating on me. I make the decision to block them both and move on. An hour after i block her my real best friend who I live with shows me a message. My ex sent a message to my best friend/roommate’s girlfriend saying I’m “manipulative, emotionally abusive, have put my hands on both my girlfriends, and will never admit to it” and I was just like wtf. I explained everything I did here and showed them my most recent texts with her. Complete mind fuck. My roommates girl reached out to my previous ex and confirmed the accusations were false and that she thinks I’m a good guy. We’ve all blocked her at this point. My friends and family have my back. They know me and my character. This isn’t who I fell in love with. I’m getting over the betrayal. What’s your take on this? What would you do if you were me going forward?
Tl;DR I pushed my ex girlfriend out of a stationary car now she wants to ruin my reputation. Is it justified? What should I do going forward?
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2021.12.04 13:12 NebulizedRat Friendly reminder to check your VG/PG ratio
I've been vaping for about a year now and fairly recently got myself a Uwell Caliburn G. I kept burning the coils with different vape juices and got confused as to why it was happening. Some juices didn't burn, others did. I've gone through like 6 coils and quite a bit of money. Turns out, I kept using juices with too much VG in them. My vape can only handle 50/50 at the highest and I was using like 70/30. Just ordered myself another 3 pack of new coils and some 50/50 juice. Don't make the same mistake 😂 Happy vaping!
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By the way my team was around 45 so I suppose I was not too underleveled in this fight.
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2021.12.04 13:12 EpicMilfHunter Am I wasting my time getting a degree?
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I've been reading this sub for a couple days and I see so many posts about people getting high paying jobs without degrees, which makes me wonder, am I wasting my time? Or considering I'm already almost done, have I already wasted 3 years of my life with uni?
I know survivorship bias is an issue here, and it is much more common to hear about successful people than unsuccessful ones, but there is also a survey by stackoverflow that shows around 30% of developers don't have a bachelors. That number seems high enough to me to make me think it's very realistic to get a job without a degree. Yes I know it would be harder to get a first job, and I would probably have to work in underpaying jobs for a while, but isn't that better than paying tuition and making very little money for four years?
The point of this post isn't getting people to comfort me because of my potential mistake, but starting a more two sided conversation about this topic. Most posts about this are very one-sided, they're either posts saying "everyone should go to uni" or saying "a degree is useless". As someone who got an internship and a research project because of uni, I see its benefits, but I can also see why it may not be as necessary as people think. I know there are a lot of posts about this, and I am sorry if I'm cluttering the sub, but I just wanted to say my piece.
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2021.12.04 13:12 Brookheimer M637 - E-Cigarettes on the NHS Trial Motion - Division
E-Cigarettes on the NHS Trial Motion
This House notes:
(1) The NHS describes e-cigarettes, on its website, as a healthier alternative to smoking and a viable aid to beating smoking addiction for good.
(2) That the 2021 Cochrane review on Electronic Cigarettes for smoking cessation found that nicotine e-cigarettes when compared to nicotine replacement therapy would result in an additional 4 extra people quitting smoking per 100.
(3) That in 2019, a major U.K. clinical study found that those who used e-cigarettes as an aid to quit smoking are twice as likely to succeed compared to those who use gum or patches.
This House further notes:
(1) That in 2019, there were an estimated 6.7 million smokers in the U.K. and that 74,600 deaths were attributed to smoking in England in 2019. 
(2) That the long term harms of E-Cigarettes are still relatively unknown, and that in the absence of long term studies, harms can only be drawn by chemical analysis and exposure outside of e-cigarette usage. The NHS recommends face-to-face advice in tandem with the use of e-cigarettes partly for this reason.
(3) In a Bute House statement, the Scottish cabinet secretary for health said that medical licensing is a matter reserved for the U.K. government.
This House urges the Government to:
(1) Set up trials across England to offer nicotine E-Cigarette prescriptions at no cost to patients who smoke and offer vaping starter packs including services to help smoking addiction.
(2) Consider directions for recording E-Cigarette usage amongst patients by GPs as part of any update to the General Medical Services contract.
This Motion is authored by The Rt Hon Sir CountBrandenburg GCMG KCT KCB CVO CBE MP, and The Rt Hon Sir Model-Mili GCMG KCT KCVO CB OBE MP, on behalf of Coalition!.
The evidence is unarguable, and is put concisely by our very own Nation Health Service. E-cigarettes are valuable and reliable aids in the often very difficult, long, and undulating struggle that those who wish to quit smoking contend with.
They are far more effective, indeed doubly so, than gum and patches – which are currently available on prescription and promoted by the NHS. Study after study, several of which are cited in the motion before us, has supported the view that e-cigarettes are now the way forwards in reducing the number of smokers in this country.
While some may baulk at the idea of subsidised vapes, the fact remains that smoking costs this country a huge amount of money every year in the smoking-related illnesses the NHS has to treat. Smoking also comes with an immense human toll, with tens of thousands of people dying from related illnesses each and every year. The measures set out in this motion are a promising route forward in driving down both the financial costs smoking incurs on the Exchequer, and indeed the human costs as well. I therefore commend this motion to the House.
 https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/quit-smoking/using-e-cigarettes-to-stop-smoking/  https://www.cochranelibrary.com/cdsdoi/10.1002/14651858.CD010216.pub5/full  https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/quit-smoking/using-e-cigarettes-to-stop-smoking/  https://ash.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/FactsataGlance.pdf  https://www.reddit.com/ButeHouse/comments/q0gxwf/statement_on_sm140/
This vote will end on the 7th December 2021
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